What Do You Really Want?
Taking the time to answer this question will help to decide how we show up for the future. Somethings I have found to want are peace, to be heard, loved, seen, accepted and to make decisions with full confidence that I am aligned with who God has called me to be. I want to be myself without apologies. I want to show up in a room knowing I belong. I want to share my thoughts with the guarantee that I will be understood. I want to offer my unique talents to others for them to see they can also show up in their own way.
These are the wants and then there comes the feelings. These emotions may be warm and fuzzy or heavy and paralyzing. Feelings such as insecurity, fear, anxiety, unworthiness, and overwhelmed show up in my life often. To control the duration of its presence in my life, I decide daily how to respond to these valid emotions. For many years, I have chosen to succumb to my feelings. My feelings are natural, right, so why not attend to them. Many conversations would ruminate in my head validating my feelings. Then I started asking myself, what do you want? I realized sitting with my feelings for long periods of time was not helping me to reach my goals. I started making decisions to change.
When you wake up to notice something is off emotionally with you, how do you respond? If you are in the habit of over attending to your feelings so that when you wake up, your best friend is now married, your children are now driving or everyone appears to be having more fun than you, please know you are not alone. It does not feel good. So, without shame, how can we love and validate the feelings we have been gifted with while being intentional to pursue what we want? We empower ourselves with what is in our hands.
1. Acknowledge the emotional change. It is never beneficial to ignore any feelings. Stay curious to asking yourself what may have changed to trigger the mood change? Often the change could signal a need for more attention to past events. A way to respect your personal feelings is to recognize them with compassion and curiosity.
2. Next would be to get active. A brisk walk or jog for 15 minutes can wake up the mind and provide an increase of energy and positivity needed for the moment. Initiating activity starts the process by shaking up the heavy emotions and releasing them while breathing.
3. Talk it out during an exercise or after. Imagine talking to a good friend about all that is in your head. What will they say? With a positive experience clarity comes when we can hear ourselves think to become more aware of our reasoning mind. When we use the reasoning/ or conscious mind it gives us more power to reduce toxic behaviors that slow us down.
Practicing these 3 intentional steps to break free from the low moments of life will help you to reduce the extended moments of feeling unmotivated and stuck. We all have resources and tools in our hands to support our success. It is my dream that we all claim them and make them work for us in a way that best supports our goals and fuels energy to rock the world.
If this resonates with you, leave me message. I would love to hear.
*Disclaimer, this blog is not to replace the advice of your primary doctor. Please speak to your primary care provider if you believe to suffer from depression or regular periods of sadness. The blog is only intended to share my personal experience.
